Have you ever noticed that when people get dumped they (and their friends) try to rationalize it by saying that he/she never was the right person for you in the first instance, and there’s somebody out there for you blah, blah blah (I prefer blah blah to etc).
Anyways, this points towards the concept or perception of a soul mate. I don’t agree. I don’t disagree. I simply don’t know if an ideal person for you or I exist out there. But the topic came up today and got me thinking.
Say that I find my soul mate. From the population of an estimated 26 million women out there this implies that my Soulmate Sally would be the singular lady that gives me the “most happiness” out of the entire female population. So a very crude measure of me hooking up with Soul mate Sally is roughly 1 in 25 million based on her attributes which I subjectively view as desirable.
Greater set of attributes subjectively viewed as desirable - means I’m “most happy.” But time changes everything doesn’t it? Specifically, it changes the set of attributes that made me the most happy. It’s not static. It’s dynamic. What made me happy before could make me sad now, vice versa.
The implication is that there’s more than one person out there for each of us as time progresses. Then there’s a bunch of soul mates out there for each of us. This isn’t a bad thing.
I liked your blog/article-thingy. I get your point and it is understandable (valid-ish).
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However, I like the concept of "the one". I enjoy believing that out there in the great wide world is that one person who will understand me and I him, completely.
Kinda puts a damper on the whole "the one" theory to think that the one person we should share all our love and happiest memories/times with, isn't really the one, its the many. Lil hard to be romantic about that.
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